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Every young man should have a hard, dirty job in his late teens. Start at sixteen or seventeen during the summers. Shovel gravel. Haul lumber. Dig trenches. Stack crates in a warehouse or under a blazing sun. Work alongside other men. Get blisters. Get a tan. Bleed. Operate tools. Push through fatigue. Learn how to keep going when everything hurts. That kind of work recalibrates a young man. It teaches him how the world works. He learns how to manage risk. It humbles the ego. It strengthens the will. And when he later moves into more intellectual work, he’ll carry the weight of that discipline with him. He’ll be grounded in reality. He’ll respect the people who keep the world running. For blue-collar men, this work may become a permanent path. For others, it becomes part of their foundation. Either way, it builds the man. For women, the equivalent is care. Caring for children. Helping the elderly. Supporting a relative. Babysitting or assisting in a daycare. The act of nurturing life shapes them. It brings out their natural strength. It teaches patience, empathy, and the quiet endurance that holds families together. Both paths form the soul. One through hardship. One through love. image

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Im gonna have to disagree in part to the "women" part. Having been the older sister that babysat constantly, the older cousin that babysat constantly, the oldest grandchild that helped the grandparents AND great grandparents constantly, it did nothing to increase my patience once I became a mother. In fact, by the time I got to my own children I had far less patience than I would have had I just been allowed to grow and learn as a child and not a little adult because I was tired of being in charge of everyone else's everything.
This kinda talk is being called segregation and toxic masculinity nowadays
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Every young man should have a hard, dirty job in his late teens. Start at sixteen or seventeen during the summers. Shovel gravel. Haul lumber. Dig trenches. Stack crates in a warehouse or under a blazing sun. Work alongside other men. Get blisters. Get a tan. Bleed. Operate tools. Push through fatigue. Learn how to keep going when everything hurts. That kind of work recalibrates a young man. It teaches him how the world works. He learns how to manage risk. It humbles the ego. It strengthens the will. And when he later moves into more intellectual work, he’ll carry the weight of that discipline with him. He’ll be grounded in reality. He’ll respect the people who keep the world running. For blue-collar men, this work may become a permanent path. For others, it becomes part of their foundation. Either way, it builds the man. For women, the equivalent is care. Caring for children. Helping the elderly. Supporting a relative. Babysitting or assisting in a daycare. The act of nurturing life shapes them. It brings out their natural strength. It teaches patience, empathy, and the quiet endurance that holds families together. Both paths form the soul. One through hardship. One through love. image
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Yeah every young man should break his back and work himself to the bone so that someone else can profit from his Labour and he won't live as long that way. What great advice for people who want to be fucked and crippled before they turn 60
This is so true. I set power poles for a few years as I worked my way through college. I learned more setting the power poles than in college. In my 30’s I’m so thankful for those long hot summers as a young adult setting power poles in the middle of nowhere.
This sort of work started for me at 8, and it was to help support the family. I thought it was cruel at the time, but it taught me a lot and I appreciate my dad for instilling hard work skills, experience and ethics in me at such a young age.