For those who keep wondering, I’m gonna put this plain and simple for you. And whoever wants to add to this may.
You’re invisible because you’re silent.
Your notes hit the relays. They exist. But you’re posting like you’re journaling, then wondering why nobody’s connecting with you.
There is no algorithm hiding you. You’re hiding yourself.
Human behavior hasn’t changed. People respond to people who engage. You want to be seen? Be social. Actual social, not “post and disappear” social.
Stop dropping 🤙 emojis like you’re collecting stamps. That’s not conversation. That’s performative participation.
Start real conversations. Reply to bigger accounts. Reply to smaller ones. Ask questions. Challenge ideas. Share your actual perspective. Make people feel like you’re there.
Your reply to post ratio reveals everything. If you’re posting more than you’re replying, you’re broadcasting, not building community.
The beauty of your world? Nobody sees it because you won’t show them. You won’t engage enough to let people in.
Nostr doesn’t owe you an audience. You build one through repeated, genuine interaction. One conversation at a time.
Stop wondering why it’s not working. Start doing the work that’s always worked: talking to people.
Now go start working. Or don’t, but don’t blame anyone else.
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To be fair... 80% of the time I am writing for myself, 10% broadcasting and only very infrequently am I prompted to interact.
But you are 100% right!
Oh this is me 1000%. I’m merely getting thoughts and opinions out into the open.
The void is my therapy journal.
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I think that here in Nostr there is less interactions because we're all much alike. Most of us are Bitcoiners that share more or less the same values. Thus, no much discussion arise. Unless you start talking about filters :P
Haha. True and true.
I've been replying to things that happened to be trending. There's a reason I do that, and the spiritual reason is there.
These people who want to engage like they're on Insta, Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, etc. are all Jesuits or Catholic-aligned recipients of the Mark of the Beast (reverence and obeisance to the Pope), and they game the Jesuit-trained algorithms the way they were designed.
That's what I do, and you can tell I was called to do this. It's a type 4 job, but I don't really care about that.
Interesting take
Agreed.
Although I would say its not entirely the fault of the individual. Social media was brand new and reached mainstream / mass adoption quickly.
From the beginning social media was born in the fiat mindset and advertisers quickly applied an old model to new tech and in the process also molded HOW people interact each with other
They interact with each other in a round about way to ensure the most value is EXTRACTED rather then PROVIDED.
#NOSTR and #BItcoin fixes this.
I am probably “doing it wrong” but when I read a note I decide if it is relevant to me and if it tickles my fancy I will respond just in whatever way I feel like. Sometimes a 🩷, ⚡️, or 🤙🏼. I do not think about what will happen next. I do not have any expectations here.
Kind of strange to me that people have expectations in a group of strangers being friendly.
More of a scroller, you’d say. I see you comment pretty often though Drea. You engage well.
I scroll to find out what is happening in the Bitcoin realm. I am not directly involved with Bitcoin projects, so I do listen more than I talk.
For sure. I know my place. I read a lot and gain understanding before asking questions and involving myself. It does require wisdom.
Spot on. Like with many things it‘s up to us and how we engage with the world which shapes put reality the most.
It’s a bit like life.


This is classic.
Zap zap zap
I say this to folks who seem introverted: it’s like life, where you can just chat with people. People LIKE chatting it up and feeling important in a conversation. Talk about stuff. Say what’s on your mind, ask for help with stuff, it’s all a way to put yourself in the mix.
Couldn’t agree more. I think the introvert has been played out to the point where it’s more of a cop out these days.
I couldn’t agree more, the real action on nostr takes place in the comments. Well said, thanks.
i won't do what you tell me
You don’t have to. 😂
Hilarious response 💀!
Ouch! Stings to hear this but thank you!
We can be better.
Introverts avoid interaction in RL, why should it be different here?
No problem in folks using this protocol to be silent and gather their own opinions. At least they're here.
Some simply cannot grok the wiring of introverts, to a point of frustration.
An Introvert perhaps just doesn't want, need or care about followers.
'To be invisible will be my claim to fame'
I’m understand. If choosing to be silent and observe is your prerogative, that's perfectly valid, but don't be surprised when your posts echo into the void. Engagement, even in small doses, is how connections are made. Without it, visibility is naturally limited.
In meat space, you risk judgment and criticism which are tangible reasons to be introverted. A bad opinion can get you fired or ostracized.
However online, your persona is a disposable account and insulting or disagreeing with someone has no impact on your life.
It takes time to do, but rewore your brain that NOSTR is a fundamentally different space than what your used to. Your essentially safe to say anything.
Being an introvert is rarely as a consequence of fearing someone's opinion. It's a genuine unwillingness, even dread to partake in any unnecessary mind numbing small talk. A re-wire is not required as we quite like where we are.
Nostr has too many bots, and it’s difficult to build community with bots. You’re not actually talking to people. I continually find myself wondering what I’m doing here.
THIS - 'Your reply to post ratio reveals everything. If you’re posting more than you’re replying, you’re broadcasting, not building community.'
It’s either true or it’s not.
Well said. Nostr is the place to do it—talk and create connections. Moving from the legacy world to this one is a new experience. Building connections slowly as I am fairly new Nostr, but glad for the opportunity to grow.
Such anger.
Haha. I was furious writing this.
Good post but i admit im a bit jaded tired and poor, makes it hard to connect, i usuallt just post and expect the best :(( im so tired is all