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🕊️ The masculine and feminine is so distorted. Not easy to rebalance in this dense place of distraction. But very possible and worth it!

@Bitcoin Veterans has been a life saver. Their group chat has been a support lifeline I didn't know I needed. View quoted note →

Yah. But we need different talk. . . War talk. Tragedy talk. Victory talk. Defeat talk. Exhaustion talk Lotsa shid talk. And then some "OK lets get back at it" talk. U know man stuff Need iron to sharpen iron. We need to be unashamedly men. Falling down is not weak. Staying down is. Leaving your fren down is a sin.

Hit me up anytime you need to chat. I'm here for you. 🫂

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sometimes you just have to talk … you will be impressed how many of your friends will listen 🫂

I have a big aversion to spending time with people outside my family. Often feel like ... there are a hundred other things I should be working on, but I'm not sitting here with this person who probably wouldn't even come to my funeral. We've lost a lot of in-person community as the internet has come online.

just scream into the void

So true. And the older you get the less likely that will change.

Aww

men are socialized from day 1 to not be vulnerable...so you get to adult hood and its lonely and isolating at times and without that ability to connect you lose old friends and miss new friend opportunities.. we aint got the tools to deal with it, its sad and fucked up 😔

If you're a UK pleb may I recommend Andy's Man Club? It's a suicide prevention charity which is focused on giving blokes a chance to talk. I told y'all that my friend died last week. It fucking sucks. He was inspirational bloke and I didn't always feel I deserved a friend of that quality. It's a lot to live up to. Anyway, he spent the last few years working for AMC and saved a lot of lives.

ANDYSMANCLUB

ANDYSMANCLUB - It's Okay To Talk

ANDYSMANCLUB are a men’s suicide prevention charity offering free to attend peer-to-peer support groups across the United Kingdom and online.

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Hardest thing is to know what I really want.

Here for you, whatever you need.

I am blessed with a very close friend circle of just enough to fit on one hand to whom I can talk to about everything, bar one guy. Everyone else I can turn to any time. It's been a seriously great help and confort. <3

Agreed. Since moving 20 hours away from where my family and friends live, I have effectively reduced my circle to zero. Nobody here is quite like me, so it's difficult to fit in, despite being very social. My wife can really only do so much.

It starts with you. Be the man who will start a hard conversation. Don't be afraid of asking scary questions. It wasn't until my late 20s that a man did it for me. And it woke me the fuck up. We lie to ourselves when we're alone.

Just tell me who where needs to be punched and I'll do it. And why are you not talking to your community here? It's literally my only vent I got except my husband. And it works so well.

this is literally what friends are for not acquaintances, not colleagues, not nerdnyms lindy is a significant friendship strength factor imo true friends irl are scarce and valued 🤝

we are here, truly, and always

Can't wait till Free Talk eventually ends up here. Kings supporting kings, and dudes rocking: https://www.reddit.com/r/barstoolsports/s/iQF06XfXvr

For straight men, their best and only friend is usually the girlfriend or wife after mid-20s and up since most guys only discuss things like sports vs actually having a real conversation about things that matter. Or if lucky, they may have a close female friend who they can talk to like me, but then I end up being their unpaid therapist. It shouldn’t be that difficult for straight men to bond beyond watching sports and drinking but talking about feelings and sharing life stuff. Sensitive, artsy men do and so do gay men.

Boys may not have. But men choose, brother. We are here. We witness, accept, and heal together.

This verse helps me when I feel like that…Psalm 34:17-18 The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Men need other men. I am here for you man! 🤜🤛 🫂

Just suppress your feelings. Serenity now.

It appears your lack of support has been grossly exaggerated. :P

No question. I know this, have friends who would probably listen, and *still* tend to keep things close to the vest. But I'm grateful for my wife as she's always open to listening - even if I might not be particularly forthcoming. But I know many men don't have that good fortune. #grownostr View quoted note →

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#masculineFrame a la LZRhodl. The internal struggles of man are always the hardest ones to deal with. The sense of brotherhood or comrodery with those that views align with your own is a good space to have. Being social creatures of varying degrees its important to know that something like this can exist if needed. But I also feel like theres a trap where one can lean on it infinitly worse than if they worked out the issues within themselves. The battle has always been YOUvsYOU. The outside is ephemeral and fleeting. I believe that the only way for the issues to be fixed and better is that the outside help the individual realize that even in the depths of the darkness that is only they that posses the power to see the light and walk towards it. Nobody can force you to do anything.

Jiu Jitsu. It helps with mental/physical/spiritual alignment. The brotherhood is second to none. You’ll meet plenty of people fighting similar battles who come together on the mats to work out their struggles. Iron sharpens iron.