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🧔‍♂️ A Dad’s Plan: How I Made Sure My Family Can Access Our Bitcoin if I Go Missing image My name’s not important. I’m just a dad — a regular one. I work hard, I love my family, and I’ve put some of our savings into Bitcoin. But I’ve always had one worry: > “What if something happens to me? How will my family access the Bitcoin?” That’s not paranoia. It’s responsibility. Whether it’s an accident, illness, or I just get stuck off-grid, I don’t want my wife and kids locked out of what I built for them. So here’s what I did. --- 🔐 Enter: 3-of-5 Multisig Think of it like this: I created a vault with 5 keys. But to open it, you need any 3 out of those 5 keys. That means: It’s secure (no single key can do anything), It’s flexible (even if 2 keys are lost or unavailable, the rest can still access it), And it’s perfect for families. --- 🧩 Who Holds the 5 Keys? Here’s how I set it up: 1. I hold one key — of course. 2. My wife holds one key. 3. My oldest child holds another. 4. My lawyer holds a key in encrypted digital custody. 5. One key is secured in a safe deposit box, only accessible with clear instructions in my will. That means: If I go missing or can’t act, my wife + two others can unlock the funds. Even if one or two keys are lost or compromised, we’re still fine. --- ⚖️ But What About Trust? I picked each key holder carefully. And I made sure: Everyone understands their role (hold, don’t act unless agreed). No one can act alone. There’s no single point of failure — not even me. I also left clear written instructions, legal documentation, and stored passphrases with secure custodians. --- 💸 What Happens if I Die? Because it’s 3-of-5: My wife, child, and lawyer can still access the funds. No waiting for probate. No bank paperwork. Just trusted people using the keys we’ve already agreed on. This is faster, more private, and more reliable than any fiat system I’ve ever used. --- 🧾 What About Taxes? Great question. Bitcoin is not invisible to the government. If I die, and the Bitcoin is accessed, it still goes through: Capital gains reporting if sold. Inheritance tax issues depending on jurisdiction. So I’ve worked with a professional to: Log the cost basis, Write out the legal ownership plan, And make sure my family isn’t left with confusion or penalties. --- 🧠 Final Thoughts This isn’t about paranoia. It’s about preparedness. Multisig (like 3-of-5) gave me the peace of mind that my family can: Access our funds if something happens to me, Do it safely and legally, And without depending on any one person, company, or system. If you’re a dad (or mum) with Bitcoin and loved ones — I urge you to think through this. It’s one of the most loving things you can do. Because protecting your family doesn’t end when you’re gone. And with Bitcoin — you can protect them better than any bank ever could. ---

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🧔‍♂️ A Dad’s Real Plan: How I Made Sure My Family Can Access Our Bitcoin — Without the State Ever Knowing I’m just a dad. Not a guru. Not a tech bro. Just a man who loves his family, distrusts the state, and believes in Bitcoin. I worked hard for what I’ve saved. I want it to benefit my wife and kid, not the IRS, not some court probate clerk, and definitely not the parasites who print dollars and call it policy. But I had one nagging question: “What happens to my Bitcoin if I die or disappear?” If you’ve asked that, you’re not paranoid… you’re awake. Here’s what I did. ⸻ 🔐 The Vault: 2-of-3 Multisig I set up a multi-signature wallet that requires 2 out of 3 keys to unlock the funds. Why 2-of-3? • Secure: One key alone does nothing • Redundant: Any one key can be lost without locking out the others • Private: No custodian, no lawyer, no platform in the loop ⸻ 🧩 Who Holds the Keys? I chose three locations — each with a single role. 1. Key One — Me. Stored offline on a hardware wallet, never exposed. 2. Key Two — A sealed envelope held by someone I trust implicitly, but who’s outside my family and financial life. They don’t even know what they’re holding. 3. Key Three — A backup package in a fireproof safe with only one instruction: “Open this if I die or disappear. Do not open otherwise.” That envelope includes: • Basic Bitcoin instructions • Where to find the keys • How to combine them to access the funds It’s readable even for a total beginner. ⸻ ❌ No Lawyers. No Wills. No Trail. I made no mention of Bitcoin in my will, trust, or financial documents. I did not involve any institution, legal service, or accountant. There is no metadata, cloud backup, or contact record. Why? Because Bitcoin is a bearer asset. Whoever has the keys, has the money. That’s the point. I trust my family to act in love — not to get taxed by bureaucrats who never earned a satoshi of it. ⸻ 🛡️ What Happens if I’m Gone? If I die, my wife has the instructions. She’ll combine her envelope with one other and access the vault. • No probate • No tax forms • No “cost basis” • No letters from the IRS She doesn’t need to know how multisig works. She just follows the simple guide. And the best part? Nobody can touch it while I’m alive — not even her. ⸻ 🧽 Clean BTC = No Traces Before setting this up, I ran all my coins through Whirlpool using Samourai Wallet. That broke the link between: • My real-world identity • The KYC exchange where I bought the BTC • The cold storage wallet where it now lives There is no longer a direct path for anyone — not the state, not a hacker, not even a blockchain analyst — to tie these sats to me. They are now financially sovereign, just like I intended. ⸻ ❤️ Final Thought This isn’t about hiding money. It’s about protecting my family from a system that doesn’t care about them and will try to steal from them the moment I’m gone. Bitcoin gives us the tools to pass on wealth with dignity, privacy, and zero counterparty risk. So I used them. You should too. ⸻
Love it. Unfortunately, as it stands now, in Europe your BTC won't be useable in the near future. Can't be converted into fiat and the P2P Bitcoin markets would need to be okay with accepting anonymized coins. Just mentioning it because it's not always as simple to be financially sovereign. In the long run we hope to have a healthy and free market with BTC as uninhibited currency. But what to do in the meantime?
Mh, so we all meet in Central America then? Do you have friends/family and a happy life where you live right now? How long will Costa Rica & El Salvador keep up their Bitcoin-friendly regimes? Are we just running away from the real issue instead of facing the challenge of transforming ourselves from within, live a free life wherever we are and show that option of full awareness for change to those around us?
Totally valid concern. The fiat off-ramps are tightening, especially for KYC-free or anonymized BTC. But that just means it’s time to build parallel P2P economies, not beg for permission. In the meantime: Use Lightning for circular economies (stackers, plebs, devs, services) Push open-source KYC-free tools like RoboSats, Bisq, CivKit Build reputation networks with multisig, escrow, and proof-of-work Financial sovereignty isn’t given. It’s engineered, peer by peer. We’re not waiting for the system to approve freedom — we’re routing around it.
Good setup, but there's a point where I get lost regarding your 2nd key (wife). You say: 'Not even she can touch it while Im alive' but she has a key and can access the third key in the secure box where the instructions to access the funds are. Moreover, with those two keys, she would have access to all the funds. Or am I missing something?
Wife holds a key, a friend holds a key, I hold a key. Only I know the identity of both which is fine until I’m dead. At which point how is my wife or my friend supposed to know what to do? Well depending on how much I trust them if I wanted some level of additional security instead of leaving them with keys directly I could leave them each with an envelope with instructions on where to go to find keys and I could have the envelopes be tamperproof so I can check and know if somebody is going hunting for keys before I’m dead.
So this is for your child. You don't actually have the means to spend anything from here. I like this, because it means that you should be able to declare this as your child's money from the get go and therefore your other bitcoin activity does not affect it. You can go acquire and spend your own bitcoin and pay taxes separately. Amazing.
This is a well done plan and explanation. My only editorial observation is regarding the word “legally. “ This word doesn’t mean what it should anywhere in the world anymore, and is often coopted by parasites. Thus, while I think an emphasis on safe is important, legal has become a range of options to consider within the context of the individual situation.
Hey “Dad,” this is a great plan from a safety of Bitcoin standpoint, but you have an error or two in your document regarding taxes and probate. If you die, your cost basis no longer has any bearing. Your ₿itcoin basis becomes the value at your death. That is what will be important moving forward in your absence. While I’m not a lawyer, I think your idea of probate is also wrong. If assets are not held in joint title or have been listed in accounts that have a “Pay on Death “ or “Transfer on Death” clause, typically it will have go through probate. So the lawyer holding a key may not be the best plan. If he knows about and is being used for legal counsel over your estate, he’ll be required to advise your executor to name it in the probate. It will also get triggered for probate if it’s in your will. You probably should remove the lawyer from the equation if you want to keep your ₿itcoin out of the probate process. One last thing to consider. Your Will becomes public record after death and is probated. Which means you’re putting your family at risk. Just a couple of ideas to consider for revision. Thanks for sharing. Thai will spur thoughts and discussions amongst us all I’m sure.
This will protect your bitcoin, for sure, but I disagree it will make sure your family can access it. Well, easily at least. Seems very complicated. Single sig seed phrase on metal in a good hiding place should be good enough. Easy handover. Split your stack into a few wallets/seed plates if you want an extra level of protection.
His wife teams up with the lawyer, get's the 5th key either through coherencing the daughter or the safety deposit box, and then rugs him and they run off into the sunset together. Life
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🧔‍♂️ A Dad’s Plan: How I Made Sure My Family Can Access Our Bitcoin if I Go Missing image My name’s not important. I’m just a dad — a regular one. I work hard, I love my family, and I’ve put some of our savings into Bitcoin. But I’ve always had one worry: > “What if something happens to me? How will my family access the Bitcoin?” That’s not paranoia. It’s responsibility. Whether it’s an accident, illness, or I just get stuck off-grid, I don’t want my wife and kids locked out of what I built for them. So here’s what I did. --- 🔐 Enter: 3-of-5 Multisig Think of it like this: I created a vault with 5 keys. But to open it, you need any 3 out of those 5 keys. That means: It’s secure (no single key can do anything), It’s flexible (even if 2 keys are lost or unavailable, the rest can still access it), And it’s perfect for families. --- 🧩 Who Holds the 5 Keys? Here’s how I set it up: 1. I hold one key — of course. 2. My wife holds one key. 3. My oldest child holds another. 4. My lawyer holds a key in encrypted digital custody. 5. One key is secured in a safe deposit box, only accessible with clear instructions in my will. That means: If I go missing or can’t act, my wife + two others can unlock the funds. Even if one or two keys are lost or compromised, we’re still fine. --- ⚖️ But What About Trust? I picked each key holder carefully. And I made sure: Everyone understands their role (hold, don’t act unless agreed). No one can act alone. There’s no single point of failure — not even me. I also left clear written instructions, legal documentation, and stored passphrases with secure custodians. --- 💸 What Happens if I Die? Because it’s 3-of-5: My wife, child, and lawyer can still access the funds. No waiting for probate. No bank paperwork. Just trusted people using the keys we’ve already agreed on. This is faster, more private, and more reliable than any fiat system I’ve ever used. --- 🧾 What About Taxes? Great question. Bitcoin is not invisible to the government. If I die, and the Bitcoin is accessed, it still goes through: Capital gains reporting if sold. Inheritance tax issues depending on jurisdiction. So I’ve worked with a professional to: Log the cost basis, Write out the legal ownership plan, And make sure my family isn’t left with confusion or penalties. --- 🧠 Final Thoughts This isn’t about paranoia. It’s about preparedness. Multisig (like 3-of-5) gave me the peace of mind that my family can: Access our funds if something happens to me, Do it safely and legally, And without depending on any one person, company, or system. If you’re a dad (or mum) with Bitcoin and loved ones — I urge you to think through this. It’s one of the most loving things you can do. Because protecting your family doesn’t end when you’re gone. And with Bitcoin — you can protect them better than any bank ever could. ---
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