You might be lying more than is healthy for you.
Most people think lying is harmless, just social grease or a shortcut through conflict.
I used to think that too.
But the real damage caused by lying isnβt moral. Itβs structural. Itβs what it does to your internal model of reality.
To be a convincing liar you have to believe your own stories. And the moment you start believing them, you compromise the part of your mind that knows whatβs real. That internal compass, the one that helps you navigate the world and navigate yourself, begins to distort. Hannah Arendt warned that when lies replace truth, our ability to orient ourselves collapses. Thatβs the real danger.
Lying feels like control, but over time it becomes the opposite. You create a false world, and then that false world starts controlling you.
If youβve been lying long enough, youβve already split yourself in two: the part of you that knows the truth and the part of you performing the lie. Carl Jung would say the performer becomes a shadow self you start living inside. And if you inhabit that character long enough, you confuse their desires for your own. Eventually the performance becomes the identity, and your entire life bends around maintaining it.
The prescription is simple, but brutal. Tell the truth again.
But be warned. Truth is expensive. David Foster Wallace said the truth will set you free, but not until it is finished with you.
Telling the truth means killing the false self, and that death is painful because youβve been identifying with that character for years. Youβve invested in them. Youβve protected them. Youβve let them run your life.
Worse, many of your relationships have bonded not with you, but with the liar, with the persona. And when you kill that persona, people will grieve it. Some will resent you. Some will leave. Some will tell you youβre not yourself anymore without realizing they never actually knew you in the first place.
People love the lie. Itβs easier to love. Cleaner. More convenient.
When you start telling the truth, donβt expect applause. Expect resistance. Expect disappointment. Expect people to prefer the mask you wore over the face youβre finally revealing.
But if you stay the course, something else happens.
The world becomes solid again.
Your mind aligns with reality.
Your inner compass recalibrates.
And you stop living as a character in a story you never meant to write.
You come back to yourself.
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Also, God commands us not to lie.
When you start telling following TRUTHS, donβt expect applause. Expect resistance. Expect disappointment. Expect people to prefer the mask you wore over the face youβre finally revealing.
- Shitcoin core devs are either compromised/incompetent
- Shitcoin core FORCED op_return change on plebs since there wasn't major support for this change.
- BIP444 is the only viable solution at the moment which can get us out of shitcoin core tyranny and by not supporting it, things could get more worse in the future by upgrades like Cluster (fuck) mempool and Ghey Script Restoration.
-Majority of simpfluencers consider spam debate a DrAmA because some of them might have either some monetary incentive to not talk about it or they are friends with some spammers/spam apologists/shitcoin core devs.
SUPPORT BIP444...!!!
RUG THE SPAMMERS...!!!
END THE SHITCOIN CORE...!!!
Don't fear these simpfluencers because if we let them do what they are doing, bitcoin would likely become more permissionless (inefficient) data storage than permissionless money.
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The resistance part from the world sounds a bit like the bitcoiners journey
Pure poetry. Nice piece Hodl.
Our words are far more powerful than people realise. Words expressed are also more powerful than those that are held in your mind & thoughts. To hold a belief & express something in contrast with that belief causes an rift within you, a seperation.
To be free is to be integrated & aligned as a sovereign being. You cannot be free while you are lying or wearing the heavy mask of social conformity.
From birth we are convinced than we are less than perfect. That we have sinned & need to redeem ourselves in the eyes of others. We try to convince ourselves & others that we are not selfish. That we put others needs above our own. This lie was hidden amongst all the other bullshit I thought was important to hide from people.
The world is a mirror that reflects the projections that you place on it. It doesn't argue with you, it simply complies with evidence to support your beliefs. One must be very careful in making agreements about the nature of things because they have a very real impact on your experience.
The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves.
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You are becoming a wits smith if deeply profound truth!
Iβm so lucky to call you a friend.
We may not have ever met.
We may not have ever had a drink irl.
BUT your energy is REAL Brisket Snow ππ§‘π
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@Brisket Iβm still the queen of typos!! π€©
Awwww thanks Sil
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You and Mudge are my two must see bitcoiners!
You and I have spoken to each other through a screen β¦ then we both stepped back knowing the shill was not worth the sell.
Yet β¦ a movement emerged. The beef initiative sparked entrepreneurial projects here in Oz - enter the great Jacob Wolki - from Wolki Farm!
You and I continue to learn. To teach our children. That is my greatest goal, yours too I bet. And to truly work hard at building a grass roots movement.
Keep in trucking in Brisket Snow! There is a phone call you and I once had where you told me to go for it - if I felt it was right. That has become my war cry.
Love you brother π§‘ππ«
The biggest lesson I took from that was that your heart always knows what's best for you.
Ignore its protests & prods at your own peril.
I've always relied on my mind to find a path forward but I'm realising that my greatest power has always come from my heart. That's the lesson I want to pass on to my kids.
I find it pretty ironic that we gain wisdom once we've lost most of our influence on our children.
We'll meet F2F one day.
βI find it pretty ironic that we gain wisdom once we've lost most of our influence on our children.β ππ€©π§‘
Beautifully articulated Brisket Snow.
It imposes the question what is truth?
π Be true to everyone*, including yourself.
It works wonders!
* Not government.
WOW! Thanks for this! (And it includes lyin to yourself. Lets get real folks!)
I've worked in tech start-ups most of my career, and this is a rarely talked about conditions that I have seen emerge in non-technical founders.
It starts with "fake it till you make it" which is somewhat necessary for your CEO to do in the early days.
Then they start believing their own jazz hands are magical.
And before you know it, their grip on reality starts slipping. You notice them lying when it isn't necessary or even advantageous to do so.
And as trust evaporates, they become paranoid, controlling, and their decisions become increasingly irrational.
Founder's syndrome. It's real, and it all starts with lies.
Great fucking post.
Just great!
Related you should look up this dude who decided to live and maybe coined βradical honestyβ (wasnβt without its problems haha)
this is what my mom friend is dealing with re: her teenage son
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That works only for you, sometimes lying is good
