We are living our lives running around and avoiding predators, when we should instead understand that we are the most sophisticated predators. Fear is not something we should feel — it is something we should elicit in others.

Entitlement is what kills relationships. In the early stages, when you are a masculine man, a woman tries to impress you and earn your attention. She is evolutionarily wired to seek attention and approval and to work for it. But when you make her a permanent part of your life and she starts feeling that she owns you and the space you share, entitlement appears. Once that sense of ownership replaces effort, her behavior changes, the dynamic shifts, and this is where things start to break down. It is human nature. Keep things fresh. Don't grant anything.