Have you been into this situation?
You have no money to pay your mortgage, your home is about to be taken away, and you’re in deep stress. You go to your parent for help, and they say: “It’s not a big deal.” And what do you feel now?
Same when you are a child and your bike has been stolen, or you cut you finger, or your Barbie is missing.
As an adult we think that a child will eventually understand that forgotten homework or a stolen bike is a minor issue. But the child learns something else: you’re supposed to switch off your emotions, you have to ignore yourself.
As a result, we grow up:
1. Distrusting our parents.
2. Disrespecting our own feelings.
3. Giving in to others, because ignoring ourselves feels “normal.”
Conclusion: if a child comes to you with a problem — listen and support them. What they’re feeling is real for them right now, and your response shapes their trust and their relationship with themselves.
