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Every humans mission is literally to have kids. You trying to conquer the galaxy or not?

you saying that doesn’t make it true. some people don’t want kids and that’s cool too.

But ... It is true. What's the point of life if not to procreate. That's like the only thing you're supposed to try to do before you die. It's literally nature. To argue otherwise would be to disregard the expansion of mankind. Malthusian.

It will also be harder. Lol but yes, more fulfilling. Responsibility is what yields meaning. That's why we live in a depressed society. People sitting around with no responsibilities wondering why they're so sad even though their life is so easy in comparison to any other time in history.

Yeah, We shouldn’t want an easy life. Struggle, boredom is essential.

Well, that would be her choice of course.

You’d be amazed at the cognitive dissonance that occurs against mothers that choose to free birth. I personally don’t agree with it, and I find it to be the most extreme form of ‘my body, my choice’ with substantial risk for both mother and child; but it’s wild to see how many people want to insert themselves and the medical complex into life-giving because of the safety profile. I don’t have the right answer, but it’s an interesting debate around this topic to watch unfold.

I would absolutely advise people to use modern medicine. The risks are abundantly clear. It's a tough one for sure since modern medicine is full of its own problems. I'm against abortion since it's not just her body. There's another human involved here. But the method of delivery is a grey area. I would probably err on the side to let the mother decide ultimately. Mostly for the same reasons I believe people should be able to decide what vaccines their children receive.

Probably so. You have experience now! The joy in your parents eyes when you tell them you're expecting is priceless.

1. If you don't have a strong foundation in your relationship, you shouldn't be getting married. 2. If you're not having kids, why get married anyways.

1. I completely agree. 2. Your argument doesn't make sense to me, because I can't see where you're coming from. You can have children without being married — marriage is not a requirement for that. Through marriage, two people are bonded together with God's blessing. If you believe in God, then according to the Bible, you should not have sex before marriage. That means you marry first and then have children, which invalidates your argument. If you don't believe in God, why would you even consider marriage just because you want children? Two people can love each other, stay together for life, and raise happy children without ever getting married. Again, this invalidates your argument. Either you marry because you seek God's blessing, or you don't believe and view marriage as just a piece of paper for tax benefits or other legal advantages. In both cases, marriage itself is not necessary for having children. That's why I don't understand your point.

I'm both cases, marriage provides a public display of your commitment. Children should be raised by 2 parents. Marriage provides assurance in both cases. A commitment to each other either in front of God or the state.

Your loss.

Based on what I know and have seen, not at all. But you do you. Someone has to make more warm bodies to keep the species going. Glad you volunteeted.

If you don't have kids, you know nothing of how they change your life.

I have eyes to see, ears to hear and understanding of time management as well as cost-benifit analysis. Plus there's all the research:

Motherlode Blog

Does Having Children Make You Unhappy?

Do we have a rosy view of parenthood? And, if so, are those colorful blinders somehow fitted for us by nature?

And zero wisdom.

I could say the same about you.

Except you really can because I have children and you don't. That means factually I have more wisdom than you on the subject.

Do you know what wisdom means?

Yes, do you?

You better start dating then. Your time is running out. Your finances have no bearing on your actions. I'm not sure what financially single means.

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Dam you're so right... I guess we did practice on the wedding night. 🤷🏻

Lol

Depends on the global population. But yea, you should avoid that unless we get to a few hundred people left. 😂

Search hard brother. Be very upfront with your dates. You need to be going on a first date like once a week. You don't have much time. It's already too late for most women your age.

Thanks dude. First goal is to relocate. I truely feel your sentiment. Waking up to the nonsense and realizing life ain’t about status is a hard pill after several careers. I’m owning my past ignorance and making changes.

Don't be afraid to let a woman work on you. You'll both have to continue making changes on each other as you grow together anyways.

Constantly aware of your own shortcoming. It's the most humbling experience.

Congrats man. The first 6 months is the hardest part. Don't say I didn't warn you!

Every 6 months are new challenges

That's certainly true.

The sleep deprivation is the worst in the first 6.

You learn so much. I swear we are given kids to learn

I slept with mine on my chest. As soon as they stirred, I was on it. I don't remember having too bad a time

2nd time I’ve see you begging. Earned a mute.