Nostr sometimes feels like that awkward party where everyone’s standing in corners checking their phones instead of talking. We’ve built this incredible censorship-resistant protocol, escaped the algorithm plantation, and then… crickets.
Here’s the psychological trap: we assume someone ELSE will engage, so we lurk instead of participate. Classic bystander effect meets network effects. Meanwhile, we’re all secretly refreshing our notifications hoping for that sweet dopamine hit of human connection.
The brutal truth? Nostr’s value isn’t in the protocol, it’s in US using it. Every like, zap, and repost creates positive reinforcement loops that keep people posting quality content instead of doomscrolling back to the bird app. We’re literally Pavlov’s dogs, but we can choose to ring each other’s bells.
Engagement breeds more engagement, and network effects are how we build the future.
P.S. - If you didn’t engage with this post, you just proved my point. 😏
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But it’s ok to lurk isn’t it? 👀
Oh ya! Lurk away GJM 🫵🏻
I love this 🧡 Nostr as irl nobody wants to be the first person to say hello or wave but if someone said hello or waved at us we know we’d do the same in return 👋
What you think is the best way to activate more “lurkers”?
Push them… lol
People want engagement but don't engage. Humans are funny like that
The lack of actual human connection is the problem. Any social media (nostr included) is just an attempt to fill that void. Fill your life with meaningful relationships and you won't care about any other type of engagement.
Get married, have kids and everything else becomes noise.


Agreed that deep relationships matter most. But humans naturally crave multiple layers of connection. Family, community, and acquaintances. Nostr can supplement (not replace) that broader social fabric when used intentionally.
There is no supplement for human connection. Social media of any kind is a distraction from the nutrition. Its like playing Minecraft and thinking you can build.
#trivium
supplement
/sŭp′lə-mənt/
noun
Something added to complete a thing, make up for a deficiency, or extend or strengthen the whole.
You can't supplement something that is essential.
Of course. We are wired for real human connection. God and then family, are the roots from which all meaning, all action, and all growth flow. Social media may offer only a simulation, yet here you are on Nostr, proving that even the wisest among us sometimes need Minecraft to scratch the itch for connection.
Fair enough on the dictionary, but I never said anything supplements family. I’m talking about the natural layers of human connection. Family, community, acquaintances and how Nostr can be part of engaging that broader web intentionally. Precision is great, but don’t mistake pedantry for insight.
I'm not on nostr for any connection beyond definitikn of 2.b.


Definition of CONNECTION
the act of connecting : the state of being connected: such as; causal or logical relation or sequence; contextual relation or association… See th...
Roger that 🫡
just to be clear: not in U.S. but in US
I lurk because so often there is such negative commentary directed towards “normies” and literally the words “if you don’t get it I’m not helping you”. So as someone transitioning from normie, I feel intimidated by some of the conversations and condescending tone. Having said that, when I have asked for help, it has been given freely. For me, it just a lot of courage to say anything for the fear of judgement. And that’s all on me, for sure, I’m just sayin’
Everyone starts as a normie, including me. The people who care genuinely want to help others learn and grow, especially as things keep changing. Whenever I can, I’m happy to answer questions or lend a hand. Passing on knowledge is important, and I believe we move forward together that way. This is the Nostr way
How we interact with social media, how we communicate got trained over the years and is deeply embedded in our systems. Yes, many people are trained to hunt for dopamine on social media. And NOSTR proves that this doesn't necessarly work anymore.
People don't post for likes (dopamine), here on nostr:
People post for zaps (yes still dopamine).
And everybody knows the saying: "You wouldn't zap a car crash."
That's why people think more before posting, which is a blessing, but also post less because of that (can also be a blessing to be honest ---> signal > noise
You can just engage with the content you like seeing on #nostr
You can just create the content you want to see on nostr
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It’s a fair point. Personally, I like to have a little chat if something interesting pops up, I just don’t feel the urge to post my thoughts/activities often.
Understood and fair
Maybe the awkward silence is part of the magic. Unlike other platforms, here we’re not being manipulated into constant noise. On Nostr, engagement means more, because it’s real and chosen. Quality over quantity, signal over noise.
Good point
OK that was good.
Thanks brother
I am new fairly new to Nostr, it takes a little getting used to, I have been liking posts that interest me and if I think they are really cool or I feel I have some kind of a connection (for example someone post about their garden or chickens ) I have been zapping them, I think that’s how its supposed to work, not sure if I can receive zaps yet myself but I’m still trying to figure things out 😊