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Unschooling neighborhood for families who raise fiat-proof kids by blending care-free play in nature with technology in a loving environment
Did you know that 4-year-olds are some of the most skilled critical thinkers on Earth? They ask 100–300 questions every single day. That is curiosity unsuppressed. That is the mind working exactly as nature intended. So how do we protect this superpower? Simple: Don’t put them into the system. No kindergarten or school teacher has the time, space, or freedom to honor thousands of questions from one child, let alone dozens. Want to amplify this ability even further? Surround your family with freedom-minded, system-questioning people. Bitcoiners. Unschoolers. People who think for themselves. Because who answers your child’s questions shapes how they learn to think. Curiosity is natural. Losing it is taught. At A Place To Be, raising a fiat-proof, deeply confident, question-asking child isn’t something you have to fight for — it happens naturally when the environment protects their spark. Be around people who value questions. And watch your child’s mind stay free. Www.aplacetobe.me
Do Kids Really Need Structure and Discipline? Written By Sylvia BP “Kids need structure and discipline!” That’s what most people say. But do they? Or does the adult saying this need structure and discipline? Or maybe… they just believe they do — because that’s what they were told as children: “You need structure and discipline!” “Go to school!” “Do this!” “Do that!” “Finish it!” “Stop now!” They never stopped to question it. They simply repeated what their parents, teachers, and grandparents — all shaped by the same system — told them. Yes, sometimes structure and discipline serve us. But aren’t we — each individual, including each child — the ones who should decide when, how, and to what extent? Because there’s another kind of discipline — the one that emerges naturally when we’re absorbed in something that fascinates us. When a child builds for hours, paints, explores, tinkers, or reads out of pure curiosity — no one needs to impose time frames or tell them to “stay focused.” Focus and flow arise organically. So maybe the real question isn’t whether children need structure, but whether adults are afraid of what happens without it. Isn’t it more true that rigid structure and imposed order often become the death of creativity? Creation is born in chaos. And chaos isn’t the opposite of order — it’s part of the same cycle. When you cook, for example, you create. You make a mess. You splash, stir, taste, spill. The kitchen becomes wild with life. Then you enjoy the meal — and only after, you restore order again: you wash the dishes, wipe the table, put everything back in its place. It’s a dance between chaos and order — between freedom and form. And that’s how learning and life really flow, when they’re not forced into someone else’s schedule. Rather than giving kids a rigid structure for their time — 6:15 am wake up, wash, get dressed 6:45 am breakfast 7:00 am brush teeth 7:30 am shoes, jacket, school 8:00–5:00 pm school’s structure 5:00 pm homework 6:00 pm dinner 7:00 pm screen time 8:00 pm bed — they can find their own structure through play, curiosity, and meaningful daily life. Children don’t need a timetable to grow; they need space to explore. They find rhythm in free play, in projects that light them up, in the gentle flow between shared meals, time outdoors, or weekly gatherings. They learn naturally from the living examples around them — watching their parents cook, fix things, tend the garden, have conversations, rest, create, or care for others. And even more so, when they’re invited in — to help bake the bread, fold the laundry, feed the animals, or join in a parent’s passion — learning becomes real, embodied, and connected to life itself. Children grow through participation, not instruction. Through observation, not obligation. Through meaning, not management. When we trust their natural rhythms, we discover that structure isn’t something to be imposed — it’s something that emerges. A living rhythm that breathes with the family, with the seasons, with the energy of the day. That’s when discipline transforms from a rule to follow into a love for what they’re doing. And life itself becomes the teacher. Let’s Reflect When we loosen our grip on control, we make room for connection. When we stop managing every hour, we begin to see our children — and ourselves — as whole beings in motion, finding balance naturally between chaos and calm. Maybe the real lesson isn’t about teaching kids discipline at all, but about remembering how to trust life’s own rhythm — and allowing it to guide us, too. Blog post published here:
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Do Kids Really Need Structure and Discipline? — A Place To Be
Most people say “Kids need structure and discipline!” But what if it’s actually adults who crave that structure — and children simply need ...
Learning in my school years felt awful — pressured, disconnected, and heavy. In my 20s, learning came through brutal life lessons that stripped away illusions and built resilience. In my 30s, the inner work I had started in my mid-20s finally began to bear fruit — I learned more about myself, unlearned old patterns, and realized that growth often comes with pain. I also discovered that learning by doing is truly my way of learning. Now, in my 40s, learning feels different — lighter, more natural, exciting, loving, and in flow. It’s no longer about proving or surviving, but about expanding, creating, and remembering who I truly am. And this is why I choose to unschool my daughters — to spare them those brutal cycles of learning and unlearning, and to let them experience from the very beginning that learning and life can be joyful, connected, and free. image
In this webinar recording, I share how unschooling unfolds in our daily life — flowing with natural rhythms, trusting curiosity, and raising children in freedom. We explore parenting from the heart, balancing freedom and guidance, screen time and outdoor play, and the inner work that helps us grow alongside our children. Watch here 👉
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Unschooling webinar — A Place To Be
 Questions? Email info@aplacetobe.me — I’ll answer them in video replies under the webinar. This is free for everybody to enjoy. If you find it valuable, I appreciate value in return in the form of sats. Cheers
Debunking School’s “Educational Necessity” Schools were never designed to raise free, fulfilled, and curious human beings. They were created during the industrial era to produce obedient workers and compliant consumers — people who could follow orders, meet deadlines, and fit neatly into a system. Yet somehow, over time, we’ve been made to believe: “We need school to get a proper education and do well in life.” Let’s debunk that myth. ⸻ 1. Everything they teach in school can be learned outside of it — but the things that truly matter can only be learned outside of it. You can learn math, reading, science, and languages through real life, curiosity, and purpose. But school often prevents you from learning emotional intelligence, self-trust, decision-making, creativity, independence, and how to live in alignment with your values — the very skills needed for a meaningful life. ⸻ 2. Most of what we “learn” at school isn’t learned at all — it’s memorized for a test and then forgotten. The information that sticks is what we actually use, need, or love — which means we would have learned it naturally anyway. Real learning follows interest, not instruction. ⸻ 3. The time spent memorizing what you soon forget could have been used to master something you’re truly passionate about. Instead of years of forced learning, imagine years of self-directed exploration — building, creating, experimenting, and following curiosity wherever it leads. ⸻ 4. True learning and deep understanding only come through experience. Not by being told what’s true, but by discovering it yourself — through trying, observing, failing, adjusting, and trying again. Schools teach about life. Real life teaches through life. ⸻ 5. “Doing well in life” has never depended on schooling. The world’s most creative, fulfilled, and successful people didn’t thrive because of school — they thrived in spite of it. They followed their curiosity, not a curriculum. ⸻ 6. The system confuses conformity with education. Grades, tests, and authority approval have replaced real growth. Children learn to perform instead of think, to obey instead of question, and to seek validation instead of self-trust. ⸻ 7. The belief that we “need school” keeps the system alive. When we realize that learning is as natural as breathing, the illusion falls apart. Children don’t need schools — they need time, freedom, and trust to learn from the world itself. That’s what we offer at A Place To Be! If you’re ready to take your kids out of school to let them start living their life, visit www.aplacetobe.me