I agree with you. I try in my personal live to evaluate people as individuals and not get caught up on group labels and assumptions around gender or race.
The problem in America specifically is that the game theory is going against us hard. White people are told to think individualistically and never consider their collective group or culture as something worth fighting over, while every other group is allowed to make group based decisions. That leads to negative outcomes and is part of the reason why we are losing what our country is.
In order to regain that, we need white people to start thinking as a collective a bit more and advocate for their race. Everyone else will do it to us whether we like it or not.