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From Thin Pleasures to Weighty Joy

A re-enchantment for the modern Western soul

In our modern Western lives, we often find ourselves chasing fleeting pleasures and instant gratifications. We crave the next bite, the next thrill, the next dopamine hit—scrolling, snacking, swiping, optimizing—only to discover that satisfaction evaporates almost as soon as it arrives. What remains is not pleasure, but appetite: a low hum of restlessness that keeps us reaching for more.

C. S. Lewis once named this condition with unsettling clarity. He suggested that our problem is not excessive desire, but insufficient desire. We are, he said, “half-hearted creatures,” settling for small, manageable pleasures because we cannot imagine the magnitude of joy that is actually being offered to us. Like children content with mud pies, we have lost the capacity to desire the sea.

This diagnosis lands squarely in the heart of the post-Enlightenment Western project. We have inherited a world that prizes control, explanation, and utility—but often at the cost of depth, mystery, and communion. Pleasure becomes something to extract, consume, and measure rather than something to enter, receive, and be changed by.

Yet across history, philosophers, mystics, and spiritual guides have insisted that fulfillment is found not in breadth of experience, but in depth of presence. Thomas Merton, Meister Eckhart, and Saint Augustine each, in their own way, argue that life becomes thin when it is skimmed, and luminous when it is inhabited.

Consider something as ordinary as eating. A snack can silence hunger, but it rarely nourishes meaning. A meal—prepared with care, shared with others, rooted in memory or tradition—does something else entirely. It engages not only the body, but the heart. It locates us in a story. It thickens time. The same food becomes more than fuel; it becomes a site of belonging.

So too with intimacy. Physical pleasure, pursued in isolation from commitment and love, can be intense yet strangely hollow. But when intimacy unfolds within trust, vulnerability, and shared life, it opens into something sacramental—an encounter that touches identity, not just appetite. Pleasure deepens when it is carried by love.

This pattern repeats everywhere. Work that aligns with our values does not simply pay the bills; it gives us a reason to rise in the morning. Relationships marked by attention and sacrifice become sources of joy that outlast novelty. Creative practices—art, music, craft, prayer—stop being hobbies and become ways of inhabiting the world more fully.

Thomas Merton gestures toward this when he writes, “The deepest level of communication is not communication, but communion.” Communion is not the exchange of information; it is participation. It is the difference between knowing about something and knowing it from the inside. It is what happens when we stop hovering above our lives and finally consent to dwell within them.

Meister Eckhart presses this insight even further: “The eye with which I see God is the same eye with which God sees me.” In other words, depth of perception changes the nature of reality itself. When we learn to attend—to people, to moments, to the present—we begin to glimpse the world as charged with meaning rather than stripped of it.

This is where Lewis’s challenge becomes practical. If our desires are too weak, then the task is not repression, but education of desire. Not asking “How can I want less?” but “How can I learn to want better?”

What this looks like in practice

For the modern Western person, living into this vision does not require abandoning pleasure—it requires slowing it down, thickening it, and rooting it in meaning.

• Practice depth over speed. Do fewer things, but inhabit them more fully. Eat without distraction. Listen without preparing your response. Stay with a book, a conversation, a place long enough for it to work on you.

• Recover ritual. Mark meals, mornings, evenings, seasons. Ritual transforms repetition into significance and trains the soul to expect meaning.

• Choose pleasures that ask something of you. Passive consumption numbs desire; participatory practices—making, loving, serving, creating—stretch it.

• Attend to longing rather than anesthetizing it. Restlessness is not an enemy to be silenced but a signal pointing beyond itself. Let desire teach you what you were made for.

• Anchor pleasure in relationship. Joy multiplies when shared. Isolation shrinks experience; communion enlarges it.

Saint Augustine’s confession still names our condition with painful accuracy: “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you.” Rest, here, does not mean passivity. It means alignment. It means finding ourselves at home in the depth we were designed for.

To seek greater pleasure rather than less is not indulgence—it is courage. It is the refusal to live a small life in a large world. It is the decision to trade mud pies for the sea, to allow our desires to be stretched rather than satisfied too quickly.

And when we do, we may discover that the joy we were chasing was never hiding in excess—but waiting quietly in depth, presence, and communion all along.