You need to be part of a strong irl community over the next 20 to 50 years to thrive. It's all well and good having BTC and nostr, but if the people immediately around you are a threat to you, or simply unaligned with your principles, then life becomes hard. The question then is what type of person do you live around and where can you go to be close to them.
Dating apps make her insecure. So she reuses the dating apps to seek validation. This makes her even more insecure. And the cycle repeats. Dating apps working exactly as they are intended.