"I'm not a feminist," says the girl who benefits from the rights that feminism has given; At 20, she is still single and not being forced into marriage with a man the age of her grandfather. She has her own bank account, the right to vote, the freedom to wear pants, the ability to speak in public, and access to education. Burst my brain 😒

Nothing will make you more anxious than avoiding the work you know you need to do. Ironically, doing the work is almost always less stressful than avoiding it. But we convince ourselves it’s the opposite. And that lie costs us progress.

My unpopular opinions: 📚Society doesn't want women to be happy. It wants them to be useful. 📚Think about it: motherhood isn't treated like something sacred; it's more like a strategy. It keeps women exhausted, tied down, emotionally drained, financially dependent... and way too busy to burn the system down. 📚So when a woman says: "Yeah, I'm not going to play that role," people don't get angry because she's selfish. They get angry because she's free. 📚Some of us weren't born to play along. 📚Some of us were made to question the whole damn system. 📚What's something you were taught to believe about being a "good woman" that you've had to unlearn? I want to hear your story 👇👇👇

Dear woman 👧🏽 💚Be more than just your husband's wife. 💚Be more than just your children's mother. 💚Be more than just an Inlaw. 💚Be, you......an adult beautiful on the inside and out, complete with positive dreams and aspirations that you chase on your journey to self growth and global impact. 💚Be financially liberated enough to do that which you positively desire without having to wait. 💚Be enough to support your spouse, be enough to walk away from toxicity. 💚Be intellectual enough to birth ideas that cannot be pushed aside. Be strong enough to take charge and be relied upon without being taken for granted. Most importantly, be valuable enough that anyone leaving you will be the one losing. 💚Be, first, you, for you.

Once you decide you want a good life, the universe will start moving things for you to have it. the people you need will appear, the doors you need will open. but not until you decide. once you truly, sincerely decide

As someone in the technical community, one of the best decisions I made this year was to commit to showing up and speaking up more, actively working on my public speaking skills. Investing in yourself is paramount. It's how you signal to the universe that you're ready for bigger opportunities and that you're actively preparing for the future. For me, that means consistently honing my ability to articulate complex technical concepts, even when it feels uncomfortable. Personal branding isn't just for marketers or entrepreneurs; it's an everyday essential, especially for those of us in technical fields. It's about clearly communicating your expertise, passion, and value. What steps are you taking this year to invest in your personal and professional growth? Cc:Gemstones Toastmasters Club, Kaduna