There was a time when I wanted to explain everything.
If someone misunderstood, I felt the need to clarify. If they disagreed, I assumed that I hadn’t been thorough enough, clear enough, or persuasive enough.
Now I accept that most disagreement isn’t about facts. It’s about timing, identity, incentives, and (possibly most crucially) - fear. No amount of explanation can move someone who simply isn’t ready to see.
So the work changes. Less convincing. More living. Less rebuttal. More alignment.
Truth doesn’t need to be constantly argued for. You need neither to be on the offensive or the defensive. Truth merely needs to be embodied long enough for others to recognise it when they’re ready.
Eventually, like Jesus said, people know you by your fruits. However, the longer you remain in spiritual imbalance through trying to win people over to your understanding of the world, the longer it takes for those fruits to grow, develop, and blossom.
You cannot fill from an empty cup.
Just something I’ve been meditating on…