am I an asshole because I look at people on the arthritis subreddits bitch about pain or how they're totally damaged now that their pinky is hurting all the time and go "weak" bc I've had fucked up hands and feet for over a decade and it hasn't stopped from shit? like I am a dick about people who let relatively small amounts of pain get to them. granted i'm autistic etc and weak to overstim and have to wear shades everywear but still