They want men Feminized so they become easier to control and less likely to rebel.
Government Schools
Social Pressures
Birth Control in your drinking water
Polyester Underwear
Disconnection from the Sun
Demonization of Meat
Women on Birth Control prefer more feminized men
Whats missing?
People were trained in a safe, rules-based, hierarchical system for 12+ years (Government Schools)
It is no surprise that they turn violent when the real world doesn't work like the one they were trained in.