A good start is asking ourselves several questions: Why does one of us do the job better than the other? Do I have a natural talent for cleaning bathrooms? Why doesn’t the other one want to learn how to do that? And what’s behind it? A lack of trust? Reproducing co-dependency conditions? A rush of territorial control? If what I do — remunerated work or knowing everything about my children — gives me a determined role and space in a relationship, what happens if I let it go? Can I become expendable, or less desirable?

The Invisible Labor of Motherhood: Confronting the Guilt Gap Between Men and Women

The guilt gap. Women, “anxious” and “exaggerated”, can you step to the side? Men, “comfortable and relaxed,” step in and do what feels ...